Whether you want to show off or just have fun, the first dance at your wedding reception is optional but a tradition.
Being that your wedding day is the most important day of your life, you probably want to enjoy it and take some memories home with you… Having that first dance will surely add some entertainment to the occasion…
But what does her fiancé think of the idea? If he likes to dance, then it will be easy to talk about this with him and he will probably agree with you.
However, what if he doesn’t dance, but you still want to make your wedding more special by having one?
Your fiancé may be uncomfortable with the idea of having to dance. In fact, he may refuse if he is scolded or pressured.
Before you try to convince him, you’ll need to find out why he’s reluctant. If you ask him why, you might find a good reason why he should.
However, he may hide the real reason for his unwillingness, and the reason he gives you may even convince you that it’s okay NOT to have a first dance.
A better way to persuade your fiancé to dance is to not tell him there will be one… at least not right away. This strategy may seem cunning, but when you think about it, no real harm is done. No one ever died dancing at a wedding…
Just approach him with the idea that you should both learn to dance for fun and that you have both signed up for lessons. After a few lessons, he may start to enjoy himself and that’s when you suggest that you should NOT have a first dance, but the idea of how much fun it would be to dance at the wedding.
If you can, let him suggest the idea of having a first dance at the wedding reception, but don’t let it seem like you choreographed it all along.
You must believe that your intentions are noble. In fact, I could look back after the wedding and agree that having the first dance as part of the reception was one of the best things to include. Be indirect and creative in the way you ask for something and you’ll never know what else you can get.