Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a magic phrase you could utter that would fix everything in the world after you get caught cheating? Life would be so much better if it could always be like this. But we would miss out on many of the experiences that also make life great.
You don’t want voodoo magic spells to fix your marriage. You’ll lose some of the value, and you won’t feel as special if you do. What you need to rely on in this case is not magic phrases that have mystical healing powers, but finding your own healing words of apology, contrition, and persuasion.
Find words that are special to your marriage, your situation, and the love you have for your spouse. Those are the only words that will matter in the end and can make all the difference in the world for the sake of your marriage after being unfaithful.
How do you make your marriage better after cheating?
- Create a plan for your marriage. You have to work together to get this done and make it a plan that you both can work on and be excited about. Many marriages fall apart because they are not going anywhere. There is no direction at all and without direction both parties went their own way and simply existed within the same four walls. You deserve better than that from your marriage and doing this will ensure that infidelity is never a problem for the two of you again.
- Work the plan together. Here is a pattern of unity that matters. Each may have different tasks along the way, but as long as you both make a concentrated effort to move the relationship forward, everything should be on track to be okay. When both are working towards their goal, they enjoy a spirit of cooperation where the pains of the past can be brushed aside and forgotten because they are both excited about the future.
- Keep your eyes on the prize. The prize is a long and happy marriage together. As long as you work together to meet your needs, keep each other happy, and set and achieve goals as a couple, then you should have a long and happy marriage that is better tomorrow than it was before you cheated. Give it a try and see what a difference it makes to your marriage after cheating.