So you’ve been dumped, you spent some time alone, and now you’re dying to communicate with your ex-girlfriend. What is he up to? Where is she? Getting in touch with her ex is a crucial part of getting back together, but she must be done carefully or it will scare her.
Contacting your ex girlfriend etiquette requires you to leave your ex alone for a while after the breakup, and I hope you did. Too many guys go overboard when it comes to staying in touch after a girl dumps them. They think it’s okay to call and email their ex-girlfriends, leave notes on MySpace, or post on their ex’s Facebook wall. Texting is the worst offender: If your girlfriend broke things off with you and you’re still trying to text her every day, you’re really shooting yourself in the foot. Nothing you can say is going to interest her right now, at least not until she misses you.
So how do you make your ex miss you and love you back? As you walk away By not contacting your ex to the point where she thinks she just dropped off the face of the Earth. When your girlfriend breaks up with you, she always looks over her shoulder to see how you are doing. It makes her feel desirable to see that you are upset and that you miss her. It’s comforting to know that the breakup is affecting you. She denies her these things, and she will feel insecure about her decision…and very curious. You’re curious about what you’re doing, who you’re doing it with, and why you seem to have gotten over the breakup so easily.
These are the things that will make your ex call you. But what if he hasn’t done it yet? There are ways to contact her that are not intrusive. I’ll list them below, but keep in mind that she should have broken off contact with her ex for at least a month before making these moves:
return of property – In the first days and weeks after the breakup, this excuse to contact your ex-girlfriend is quite weak and artificial. But after a month? You can always call your ex or send him an email to let him know what “stuff” he left at your house. You can’t call about something stupid like a toothbrush or an audio CD, but if your ex left behind clothes or a bunch of belongings, you can always make this seemingly innocent connection.
Congratulations – If your ex-girlfriend has achieved some recent achievement, you can make a friendly call to congratulate her. She maybe she graduated from school, she got a promotion at work, she had a birthday… stuff like that. Calling to say congratulations is a great way to reconnect without seeming like you have ulterior motives, and your ex will really think she’s sweet that you remembered her on this day.
family consultations – Dating someone usually brings you closer to their family, which can be another good way to get back in touch with your ex. If your mom was having a scheduled operation, call to see how she did. If her brother went into the army, call a week later to see how she’s doing. Being around her family gives you a half-decent excuse to reconnect once or twice after the breakup, especially if you dated this girl for a long time.
There are plenty of other great ideas for contacting your ex when you want her back, and these are just a few. Still, getting your ex girlfriend to call you is the best option. Learn as much as you can about how to communicate properly after the breakup and, more importantly, know what she’s going to say when that contact is made. The right moves, made at the right times, can get your ex back into a mindset where she misses you and she wants you back in her life.