Every woman has some complaint about her marriage. It is virtually impossible to find a wife who will tell you that everything her husband does for her or everything he says about her makes her happy. Marriage certainly is about learning to balance the good with the bad. It is by far the most complex and intricate dynamic that most of us will ever find ourselves involved in. We all strive to make the relationship as satisfying and balanced as possible. We went into it with the intention of making it work forever. Of course, forever is a long time and there are bound to be a few storms to weather in life’s mix of pleasures. One of those storms cuts right into a man’s ego. Hearing your wife criticize you can go straight to the heart. If she says that she is bored with you, she will not only make you feel the bitter sting of her biting words, but you will also taste her humiliation.
How are you supposed to respond when your wife tells you that you’re boring? You’re a man who works hard for his family, aren’t you? You go to work every day to do the best job you can, you come home to spend time with your wife and kids, and then you go to bed so you can do it all over again. Maybe you indulge in a family vacation one or two weeks a year, and maybe you bring your wife a dozen roses when your wedding anniversary rolls around. You sound like a great guy and you are. The problem is that your wife doesn’t think so anymore.
Your wife has gotten bored with the relationship and the fact that she told you is actually a good sign. She doesn’t feel that way given how much it hurts to know that she sees you in such an unflattering light. She maybe she said it during an argument to hurt your feelings or maybe it was more of a reflex when she walked in and she saw you sitting in front of the TV once again lost in the game of the week. Anyway, it is obvious that you are not going to remedy this problem by doing what you do every day. Your wife craves excitement and you are the man to give it to her.
Spontaneity is what your wife needs, and there are a few ways you can give it to her. Start by planning something completely out of the ordinary for the two of you to do together. Maybe you take her on a nature walk in a park she’s said she’s wanted to visit for years. Or maybe she’ll keep it closer to home when she surprises you with a dinner cooked solely by you. Your goal has to be to do things out of the ordinary that you know will make them smile back.
If you’re the type of guy who likes to take things to the extreme, then you want to do something that will completely drive her crazy. There are a couple of ideas that fit into this bill. One is to plan a quiet, intimate second wedding at his house for just your wife, you, and your children. Tell her the morning of the big event that you want her to put on her prettiest dress and be ready by a certain time. Then get a beautiful bouquet, some champagne and put on a suit. She will be overwhelmed by this and she will probably never say that you are boring again.
The other idea, which is just as fun, is to plan a whole weekend for the two of you. Take care of everything from arranging childcare to booking plane tickets and a hotel. Again, you’re not going to give him much notice. You want to give her plenty of time to pack up and say goodbye to the kids before walking her out the door on your weekend adventure for two.
You don’t have to transform into something you’re not to show your wife that you’re far from boring. However, it’s wonderful to keep her on her toes by taking control of her time together from time to time and planning outings that will show her that she really can’t predict what you have up your sleeve.