Most people find it easier to stay in a one-sided relationship, believing that their spouse will one day come to, rather than just walk away. For women, this is more true, as many feel that because their man has made no move to end the relationship, it shows that he may still be committed to her to some degree. But the truth of the matter is that most men don’t like confrontation so much that they prefer to hang on to the relationship rather than be the ones to end it. This is true because according to a Harvard University study of approximately 231 Boston couples, women were often the ones who suggested separation.
Now that I think about it, most of the time when women have a hard time letting go, it’s not really about losing the guy, but about the feeling of loneliness they fear: not having someone and starting over. However, being in a shaky relationship can lead to emotional problems.
Aside from the pain and sadness this could be causing in your life as a lady, you are also losing confidence and self-esteem. If you feel like your guy doesn’t like you anymore and you’re wondering what the best options would be for you, then the following tips will help you cut the cord without compromising your self-esteem.
Reassess your relationship
First, it is important that you honestly evaluate your relationship. One very important thing you can do that will help you here is to make a list of all the things that you hoped this relationship should be by now and compare it to what you have on the ground right now. If your instinct tells you that you could be on the verge of losing it, then you may be right.
Try to let it go
The fear of most women to stay with a boy who no longer loves them is to be alone again. However, things can get really difficult depending on how long you’ve been in the relationship due to the time and emotional energy that you could have put in. Also, after accepting reality and deciding that it is time to move out and move on with your life, it can be painful as you tend to feel abandoned.
Is it really worth it?
Is this Romeo really worth all the fuss? Think of all the negatives like this that you’ve been dismissing as inconsequential. Do you remember 500 days of summer when the kids took a dose of their own medicine? Maybe you just need to clean those pink lenses you’ve been wearing all along. It was probably not that good or fun being with him in the first place.
No self pity here, please!
Do a backhand and don’t try to say “what’s wrong with me?” road. It has nothing good for you. No matter how you currently feel, keep in mind that you are not a loser; he just doesn’t realize what he’s missing. If the love you dreamed of blooming between the two of you didn’t bloom, then maybe you weren’t made for each other. So let it go!
Let go of any negative emotions that may have built up during this process, get your life back on track by engaging in ego-boosting diversions such as your job, fitness training, or community service, etc. Be free again and let happiness radiate through you, making you a sexier catch for your Mr. Perfect.