Sometimes you will feel like you are on the right track. You can feel that there is some chemistry there. People may tell you that they are both flirting a lot with each other. You ignore it and say ‘No’, but deep down you know that you love this girl more than anything else that’s going on in your life right now. So far, everything is quite informal and it seems to be going quite well.
You call her and ask her if she wants to meet for a drink on Tuesday, she tells you she’s busy and you say, “Ohhhh, really?” Then ask, “How about Wednesday?” You finally manage to get it out. Because there has been some resistance, you start to feel a bit self-conscious and uncomfortable. You start laughing at inappropriate times to break the tension. She looks away and tries to divert attention to the drink she is going to have, which, of course, you will seize the opportunity to buy from her (in an attempt to get her approval). The more you feel her getting away from you, the more you want her and the more you do to try and hold her back. Every day you see her, you become more and more needy and, in her eyes, less and less attractive.
If you find yourself needy for any woman, then you have instantly destroyed whatever attraction you may have accumulated. You will meet her as a cowardly, weak and desperate child man. Research by psychologists at Harvard University showed that women are much more alert to body language than men; with women reading non-verbal cues twice as effectively. Believe it or not, but you can also communicate your ‘need’ on a non-verbal level. Have you ever noticed yourself leaning forward trying to engage her? Do you turn to look at her while her legs are crossed and you divert her attention from you? I’ll just say now, don’t do that, relax, lay back and try to communicate that you don’t need it. Don’t giggle just to try to break the tension. Don’t try to chase her out for a drink. Don’t offer to buy all of your drinks.
Instead, you want to focus on being an assertive alpha male. You want to be cool, calm and collected. Be interesting, mysterious, and unpredictable.