I read a forum question about this recently and it was talking about the various ways people define what a threesome is in terms of who does what, where pleasure is focused, and what setups both men and women prefer, and why. So I thought it might be worth sharing what I learned, what I think, and letting you explore the definition for yourself.
So the typical setups when it comes to the average partner are MFM or FMF, and generally men love the idea of FMF more than MFM. I say “typically” but I know there are a lot of men who are not typical men (hats off to you). You can also have MMM and FFF, they just aren’t talked about that much. Types are still relevant to these, but I won’t focus on them.
Now there are at least three ways triples work (no pun intended, but it works, so go ahead): one-way, two-way, and multi-way.
The problem some men have when they think about having another naked man in the room with them is the fear/worry that the other man will touch or play with them in some way. If you’re into that sort of thing then yes it could be, however in a one-way scenario it’s more like having a teammate to help overload your senses; Two on one, kind of a mission to see how orgasmic you can make her when you have extra hands, an extra tongue and another hard rock… to pleasure her with. Which can be very good for the woman in the center (I can attest to that).
So one way is where the focus of pleasure is. One direction. It’s also done as an MFM where the woman is pleasing the guys however and wherever she can, which is a very familiar scenario (often the favorite in male porn), and the other variation of this is in a FMF where pleasure comes into focus. it is in the man of both women. This specific scenario tends to rank number one on men’s fantasy wish list, and who can blame them, I like it when it comes to me too!
Two-way is where two of the three parties pleasure each other while the third watches or plays with herself, and then at some point one person almost runs out and the waiting person steps in. This is a good scenario when you have a person who needs a break, that is, when you are in the hard penetration part of the night and the orgasm has not yet occurred. It can be two men swapping for the woman to have an orgasm, or two girls swapping for a man who imitates the Duracell/Energizer bunny and goes on and on and… you get the point.
Multidirectional is literally an all-in! Personally, I quite like this scenario and it’s more likely that the two same-sex participants are at least bisexual or bisexual (although technically this could go both ways… but that would be confusing). This is where the game is shared, you have 2 hands and one is on each of the other participants and you have at least 2 different body parts playing with you. It can be a daisy chain where it’s more of a circular pattern of play that changes direction (maybe that’s a different type entirely… but let’s not complicate things).
Actually, what often happens is that everyone starts with one type, moves on to another, and sometimes incorporates all 3 to some degree. There are no hard and fast rules stating that you have to start and end with the same guy, although now I can see it, the police show up at his door with the good book of his and give him a ticket for deviating from one-way to multi-way… Ha!
So there you have it… just when you thought everyone was talking about the same thing I went and blew the lid off and muddied the waters with all my techno-geek trio lingo. Suffice to say, now that you know, all you have to do is ask a few simple questions to figure out if the image you have in your head is the same as theirs when they ask you “would you like to have a threesome?”.